đ How to Find a Gift That Feels Personal (Even When Youâre Totally Stuck)
Because the right gift doesnât come from your wallet â it comes from paying attention.
Weâve all been there: scrolling endlessly through gift lists, standing frozen in a store aisle, or typing âgreat gifts for [insert person here]â into Google like itâs going to save us.
I get it. Iâve been doing this a long time, as a dad, a partner, a son, and the person my friends call when theyâre clueless about what to buy for someone they care about. And Iâll let you in on something most listicles and ads donât tell you:
The perfect gift isnât about the price or the brand. Itâs about showing that you notice.
Thatâs it. Thatâs the magic.
So whether youâre shopping for your mom, your partner, your teenager, or your best mate, hereâs how to stop feeling stuck and start giving better⌠without the stress.
đ§ Step 1: Zoom Out and Ask, âWhat Do They Actually Love?â
This sounds basic, but itâs the part most people skip.
Before diving into Amazon or Pinterest, pause and think:
What lights them up?
Not âWhat do they need?â or âWhatâs trendy right now?â
I mean, what makes them feel like them?
I once bought my mom a small, hand-painted jewelry tray that reminded her of a place we used to visit when I was a kid. It cost less than $20 and fit in a padded envelope (she lives abroad, so postage matters), but it made her cry. Not because it was fancy, but because it was her. It was us.
đ¨ Step 2: Personal Doesnât Have to Mean âPersonalizedâ
You donât need to engrave their name on everything. You just need to connect the gift to something specific about them.
For example:
A travel-sized skincare set for someone who always takes red-eye flights for work
A mini projector for a teen who watches movies in bed every night
A cozy lap desk for the mom who juggles Zoom calls and journaling from the sofa
Each one says: âI notice what you do, and I thought this would make your life just a little more comfortable.â
Thatâs a beautiful message, quietly wrapped up in ribbon.
đ Step 3: Surprise is better than Safe
One of the biggest mistakes people make when theyâre stuck is playing it too safe. âIâll just get them a gift card.â âMaybe some wine.â
And hey, Iâve done it too. But you know what people remember?
The surprise.
The thing they didnât see coming. The moment they open the box and go:
âWait⌠how did you even think of this?â
That might be:
A custom playlist printed as a QR code on a keychain
A tiny book of inside jokes you had printed via Etsy
A poster of a quote they said once and forgot about⌠but you didnât
đŹ Real Talk from a Real Dad
I run a site called The Gifting Dad, where I help people find actually thoughtful gifts. It started because I was tired of feeling like gift-giving was supposed to be easy⌠but never really was.
Now, I write guides for anyone who wants to feel proud of what theyâre giving, whether itâs for a birthday, a holiday, or just because someone deserves a little reminder that they matter.
You donât need to be creative, or rich, or wildly intuitive. You just need to care enough to pause and pay attention.
Thatâs how you find the gift.
đ Need help getting unstuck?
Iâve put together a bunch of curated guides that can help, real-dad-tested, thoughtful, and joy-approved:
Best Gifts for Teen Girls
âŚand a lot more if you poke around.